Your Call For Unity Is Selfish, Not Magnanimous

Pretending to come together only benefits those in power

Gabrielle Blair

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Republicans everywhere are waving the unity banner. There are calls for bridge building from government leaders, friends and relatives, and neighbors we go to church with. Let’s not dwell in the past. Sure, we called for a mob to kill Pence and encouraged people with bombs and guns to storm the Capitol, but it’s time to move forward, let’s forgive and forget ASAP.

If you see someone call for unity, don’t trust them. They don’t have the country’s best interests in mind. They like to think they are being magnanimous, but really, their calls come from a place of selfishness. They are uncomfortable facing the news. Maybe they are lifelong Republicans and don’t like seeing what the Republican party has become. Maybe they voted for Trump and now regret it. Maybe any political talk makes them uneasy because they sold their soul for a tax cut, so they’ll say talking about politics is rude, and try to change the subject. They want to move on, they want to focus only on pleasant things and brush all this hard stuff under the rug. Do not let them.

The mom in me wants to level with them: Hey Kiddos, you’re skipping some steps. Coming together won’t happen, literally can not happen, until there is justice.

Sure, we could try to skip the justice and just pretend we’re sincere about coming together. Only, we tried that for about the last 50 years (or is 150 more accurate?), and it turns out, it doesn’t work. Pretending to come together benefits those in power, protects whiteness, and hurts everybody else. So, before we wring our hands about togetherness, we need to tackle justice. Justice = appropriate consequences for those who hurt people, and for the people who were hurt.

Pretending to come together benefits those in power, protects whiteness, and hurts everybody else.

For reasons I don’t quite understand, consequences — which people experience every day for every one of their actions — have developed a…

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Gabrielle Blair

Founder of #AltSummit. Creator of DesignMom.com. NYT Bestseller. Designer and mom of 6 — Ralph, Maude, Olive, Oscar, Betty, & June. Based in the U.S. & France.