Pretending to come together only benefits those in power

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Republicans everywhere are waving the unity banner. There are calls for bridge building from government leaders, friends and relatives, and neighbors we go to church with. Let’s not dwell in the past. Sure, we called for a mob to kill Pence and encouraged people with bombs and guns to storm the Capitol, but it’s time to move forward, let’s forgive and forget ASAP.

If you see someone call for unity, don’t trust them. They don’t have the country’s best interests in mind. They like to think they are being magnanimous, but really, their calls come from a place of selfishness…


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When I hear men talking about guns and how there’s nothing that will stop them from defending their family, my mind goes to the story of Naaman in the Bible. Do you remember Naaman?

He was a great military leader and he also had leprosy. The prophet Elisha told him to bathe in the Jordan River seven times and he would be cured. Naaman refused. In fact he was quite angry that the suggested cure was so simple. So his servants said: “My father, if the prophet had told you to do some great thing, would you not have done…


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A frequent direct message (DM) I receive on Instagram is some version of this: “I come here for design posts and to see your life in France. Stop posting political stuff.”

My Instagram content is different than my Twitter content. On Twitter, where I have 112k followers (a fairly even mix of men and women), I mostly use the platform to amplify voices I appreciate. I end up retweeting a ton of political stuff, and some tweets that make me laugh. On Instagram, where I have 129k followers (90% women), I share more personal content like house renovations, vacations, and…


Our conversation about abortion places the burden of responsibility on women. I argue men are the root cause.

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Illustration: Jialun Deng

As a mother of six and a Mormon, I have a good understanding of arguments surrounding abortion, religious and otherwise. When I hear men discussing women’s reproductive rights, I’m often left with the thought that they have zero interest in stopping abortion.

If you want to prevent abortion, you need to prevent unwanted pregnancies. Men seem unable (or unwilling) to admit that they cause 100% of them.

I realize that’s a bold statement. You’re likely thinking, “Wait. It takes two to tango!” While I fully agree with you in the case of intentional pregnancies, I argue that all unwanted pregnancies…

Gabrielle Blair

Founder of #AltSummit. Creator of DesignMom.com. NYT Bestseller. Designer and mom of 6 — Ralph, Maude, Olive, Oscar, Betty, & June. Based in the U.S. & France.

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